Successfully living with another individual in close quarters requires communication, cooperation and compromise. For many college students, this is the first time they have shared a room with another person on a semi-permanent basis. A roommate/suitemate relationship, like any other, needs each individual to work at and care about making the relationship work. The key to a successful relationship is open communication before any conflicts or problems arise. It is a good idea to discuss issues and set basic standards that establishes a respectful atmosphere in the room. Some issues you may wish to discuss include guest visitation times and behavior, noise level/study time, cleanliness, taking messages, borrowing personal belongings, sharing (food, stereo, TV, etc.), privacy, smoking/substance use, “morning” vs. “night” orientation.
A few minutes of discussion, sharing thoughts and feelings, and consideration for the other person early in the roommate relationship can often avoid hours and days of heartache and frustration later.
If conflict arises between roommates/suitemates, the individuals should discuss the situation. If the situation is not resolved, it should then be addressed with the RA. The RA will facilitate more open discussion and assist in a resolution of the disagreement. Continued difficulties may be referred to a professional staff member in the Housing and Residence Life Office. The director may require other action or the relocation of students if necessary. Physical or psychological threat or harm and intimidation to others cannot be tolerated and will result in disciplinary action.